I don't know that I've ever admitted to anyone else that I have this problem with my tone and inflection. Likely because it's never gotten to a point where I/we were calm enough to get separated enough from defense mechanisms and ego to discuss it.

And so that is why this is an amazing thing that we've got going here.

It all happens when I immediately get defensive when someone else gets defensive...

Blahty blahty blah.

The white hair growing near my eye socket will soon be long enough to comb back over and around my head, giving me a wicked cool white streak.